A confused feeling

Someone I know is very confused with her feeling! I really do not know what she wants.  I think she does not know what she wants too.

My friend is married (maybe not happily) and have a girl.  And she is still ponder over a lost love.  And just when everything is smoother, the lost love (first love) suddenly appeared in front of her.  Not asking for reconciliation but happen to work in same place with her.  Sigh!  Do you called it "fate"?  Or someone is playing a joke on you?

She has been behaving and talking nonsense when ever I see her and when I could not stand it anymore, I ask her what is her problem.  And she blames the ex for her nonsenses.  *weird*  But when think about it, her behaviour does change to 180degree when the ex appeared.  And everytime the ex is around, she will be moody and behave strangely.    She is also sensitive to words and one day I saw her with red and swollen eyes (crying over him?).  And when the ex was with another woman, she was not happy and look jealous. 

Sometimes I am thinking that she is still holding a grudge against the ex but other days I feel that she is jealous of him.  She said she is stressed with the sight of him around. 

So, girl, don't get me wrong, but what is in the past, is already in the past.  What is important is the present.  Live in present and present is what mold the future.  If one day you does get out from the marriage and look for him, he may not accept you and reconcile with you.  I believe your husband is not as bad as you are describing because if he is that bad, you would not choose to marry him in first place.  So what ever it is, accept and get on with your life.